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Life is really easy. Especially when you’re either Julia Roberts or Meg Ryan.   My Best Friend’s Wedding You can still be a likable protagonist while trying to ruin people’s lives by lying, scheming, and messing with their relationships for your own selfish reasons.   Grease You can get guys to like you by dressing slutty and smoking cigarettes.   When Harry Met Sally You can’t actually just be friends with a man. On the bright side, if you’re secretly in love with your best friend it’ll work out greatRead More

It’s been about a year since I downloaded Tinder and we’ve shared some interesting times. Not good times; mostly bad/weird times, and one good time that turned bad. I only met up with 2 guys from Tinder, so in other words I made 2 huge mistakes. Here’s the first one: It was in my beginning stages of Tinder, you know, back when you’re getting more matches than you thought was possible (do THAT many people really find me attractive? If so, why am I on Tinder)? And you talk to eachRead More

  After two years as a resident of San Francisco, one serious relationship, and a dozen-ish fernet-fueled make-outs in dive bars throughout this 7 by 7 span of expensive earth, I have been there and I have done that.  And after circumstantially created dates as cause of Tinder, OkCupid, Grouper and Hinge, I have done even that. The complicated species that is San Francisco man falls into five distinct archetypes.  (Although it is rude to overgeneralize, my observations and scientifically calculated data boasts extensive evidence that props these patterns).   1. Read More

First dates are like interviews. At least in my experience. Every halfway decent one I’ve ever been on is a volley of questions, as if both parties are reporters and the person across the table is his or her subject. Except instead of writing about them, both people are tasked with trying to decide whether this person has enough potential to be included in future plans – whether that is a second date, a night of wild sex, and/or everlasting love. But in my experience, these questions have been mostlyRead More

As we grow up, reading seems like the biggest chore. I remember dreading my book reports and book assignments, but it’s something that never goes away. Whether it’s for leisure or for requirement, reading is probably the most attractive thing a girl can do. Yeah yeah, I know you think that’s hard to believe but here’s why…   The Brains Reading makes you smart. Despite all those magazine ads and commercials, boobs and ass out aren’t the only things men find attractive, even though it’s probably the first thing they’llRead More

I’ve decided to do a social experiment to see how much I have changed in the past decade. I’m 26, so I selected some things that were part of my life at 16 and still are now. Then I analyzed how I view or react to doing them.   Getting a paycheck. 16: This is fucking awesome! $84 for stocking shelves and running a cash register! I knew this job would make me rich! I’m going to treat myself to some books, and then I’m going to give the restRead More

I’ve been in my share of long-term relationships, short-term relationships, and FWB situations. Now, if you’re anything like me (and hopefully you are in this respect), you’re only trying to marry one lady ever. Accordingly, all of the other relationships with women in your life will end in a breakup. And while breaking up can suck, it’s definitely necessary, if the girl you’re with isn’t wifey material. So, here are ten signs that you need to ditch the bitch and find a better girl for you. After all, you haveRead More

I don’t know what time it is.  I refuse to look because it makes being awake worse. I’m caught in this buzzed state, wanting to be quiet, mind and body, wanting to be accepting and still and lie next to you, strewn diagonal amongst the chaos of covers and unsteadily tucked sheets.  I know it has been hours.  I’m too sensitive of time and my perception of it surreptitiously slips in as I wake before alarms. I’m angry.  I’m angry you revealed moments before sleep that you’re looking for jobsRead More

Girl Code:  An unofficial set of guidelines that all girls are encouraged to follow unless they want their weave pulled out. It’s a tough world out there, ladies.  We need to stick together. Gentlemen, you can go.  Girls, let’s break it down. The 10 Commandments All Girls Should Follow 1.  Thou shalt not covet a dude who has a girlfriend.  Respect.  It doesn’t matter if the dude looks like George Clooney.  If he’s taken, back off.  It’s not going to happen.  And if it does happen, you just joined forces with a cheater who,Read More

It’s halfway through July and summer love is in the air. In honor of love, here are the top 5 most romantic movie scenes…   Final Scene – When Harry Met Sally This is arguably the most beloved RomCom of all time, thanks to a smart, hilarious script by the lovely late Nora Ephron. It’s a classic. Most people are familiar with the orgasm scene (which is fantastic) but the last scene is truly one of the most rewarding endings to any film ever made. Billy Crystal is perfect, making bitter andRead More

Let me start off by saying this: not all girls are the same.  There are those that do actually mature faster than everyone else like the science textbooks say, and those girls see that nice guys are actually way better than the alternative.  There are those that break the rules and don’t just go for drama and seek attention.  But they are not the norm, sadly. From what I’ve experienced, the majority of girls aged 15-25 prefer to be with a guy that will treat them like crap, cheat onRead More

When I was in my early college years, I tried to convince myself that I had ADD so I could get myself on Adderall.  I had an eating disorder and thought that this trendy drug would speed up my “lose every pound of fat or kill yourself” diet.  The truth is, I just get distracted like everyone else.  In fact, I came to It’s A Grind today to read and write, but have spent the last 1.5 hours narcissistically browsing photo albums on Facebook while simultaneously posting recipes on PinterestRead More

If you’re a dude, then premature ejaculation has probably been a problem for you at some point in your life. If it hasn’t been, bully for you, I guess, you triumphant and lucky bastard. I used to have mad premature ejaculation problems. (And I’m perpetually looking over my shoulder, for fear that my three-pump-dump tendencies will return with a vengeance.) There were times in my high school and early college days when I would occasionally avoid sexual encounters with women because I was so frightened of completely embarrassing myself. ThisRead More

Relationships succeed when each party gives their all, so if you want to be treated like royalty, start treating your partner the same way. It’s the golden rule, essentially. “Treat Others The Way You Wish To Be Treated.” If you stop treating your relationship in terms of what YOU want and what YOU’RE getting, and instead give everything to make your partner happy, chances are (if you’ve got a good one) they’ll do the exact same thing for you.   As you read through this list, it won’t seem likeRead More

There was once a time I dabbled in online dating (is it called dabbling if it goes on for 10 months?). During this period in my life I went on dates with total strangers from Tinder, O.K.Cupid, Plenty of Fish- pretty much anything that could lead to a free dinner. Anyway, during the summer of 2013, I was casually dating a man named Sam. Sam was older than me, had lived in cool places, prided himself on being a great chef, and was a former military man. Sam invited meRead More