Posted On March 19, 2015 By In Advice For Women, Miscellaneous, Rants

Stop Saying Sorry: A Lesson Learned From a Taco Stand Bathroom

 
 

The thing about Tacos de Huicho, the most kickass taco place in town and probably the world, is that though they have kickass tacos they also have a not so kickass restroom setup.

It’s not as bad as the one in my favorite Starbucks.
The one that has the automatic light that seems to always turn off right in the middle of doing your thing.
The one that seems to give up on you the way your high school English teacher did during your junior year.

But it does only have one toilet for both men and women.
And apparently, a very unreliable lock.

I had to go. I couldn’t wait. Two Pacificos and it was time to make a very necessary trip.

I rush into the bathroom. Notice that there aren’t any seat covers and decide that the countless wall sits during JV volleyball had prepared me well for this very moment.

So I did what many women have done before me and many will continue to do long after I am gone…I squatted.

It was during that not-so-lady-like hover above the Tacos de Huicho toilet that I heard a knock at the door.

Seeing that I was midstream and knowing full well that I did indeed twist the little button on the knob, I knew I didn’t really need to say anything because the door would not open for the person on the other end.

And of course, it was at that very moment, mid-hover, that the door flew open and a kind-looking, middle-aged gentleman, with wisdom and shock etched into his face, walked in.

“Whoops! Sorry!” were the exact words that came out of my mouth as I gave up my hover and planted my bare buns on the taco toilet seat in an effort to recover any amount of pride I had left.

Yes.
I had just apologized to the man that walked in on me mid-piss.

As I walked out of the restroom, once the dust had settled, and the man had repeatedly told me, “I didn’t see anything! I’m so sorry. I swear I didn’t see anything!” (which only reassured in my mind that he did, in fact, see something) I wondered why my initial reaction was to apologize.

And why my initial reaction in ANY situation, is ALWAYS to apologize.

In this instance, I suppose it was okay. I should’ve said something when he knocked. So I’ll let myself slide on this one.
But the other day, I apologized to a houseplant because I accidentally ran into it.

The thing is, I’m always saying sorry.

I’m the first to apologize in an argument even if I’m not the one at fault.
I’m always the first to concede…even to my own problems.

I could be crying from the worry and stress of a new job (and just the overwhelming weight of life sometimes) and then tell the person comforting me, usually my boyfriend, I’m sorry that I’m sad.

And being the sage that he is, he’ll tell me, “Don’t be sorry for how you feel.”

Because that’s exactly what I do. I feel sorry for feeling.
For being upset or hurt or worried or scared or even proud.

And that’s just ludicrous.

So I’m done.
I’m done saying sorry for feeling the way I feel.
For conceding when and where I don’t have to.

There’s a reason I have those feelings and they shouldn’t just be “sorry’d” away.
Instead of being sorry, I’m going to start being sure.
Sure of my abilities. Sure of my gut instinct. Sure of my purpose.
Just sure of myself.

I’m going to stop sorrying away my problems, but instead face them.
Confront them.
DO something about them.

And maybe next time I’ll double-check the lock on the bathroom door.

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Kelli Johnson is an aspiring writer and the current (self-proclaimed) most kickass substitute teacher of all time. Her obsessions include coffeehouse chatter, Radiohead on rainy days (aka Rainiohead), and coming up with alternative tag lines for the Real Housewives. When she's not molding young minds or crying over her student loans, she can be found watching Golden Girls reruns or frolicking with her sweet tortoise named Spartacus.

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