I once met a wonderful couple at a wedding that had been married for nearly 50 years. When I asked them what the secret was to a long-lasting marriage, the wife paused, looked at me and said, “Alcohol.”
It happens: We meet the person of our dreams, fall in love, wake up smiling and go to bed feeling perfect. We make a conscious effort with our appearance and stay up late talking on the phone.
We shower each other with surprises and spontaneous adventures. We take our love into consideration when it comes to absolutely anything. We leave notes and do many things “just because.”
That is until a few years pass and you get used to each other. When we get comfortable, it’s easy to forget about the little things that used to make us smile during those first few precious months. We get content and complacent and can sometimes neglect, or at least forget to show our significant others just how much we love them.
Cheers to the couples out there that have managed to sustain the butterfly feeling throughout so many years. Taking a note from them, here are five little yet meaningful things you can do to keep those butterflies fluttering:
1. Kiss her mid-sentence
Don’t faceplant her while she’s in the middle of explaining something or telling you something serious. Rather, when you’re casually chatting, just kiss her. It’s one of the sweetest and most spontaneous surprises you can give. A kiss on the forehead tends to go a long way, too.
2. The morning text
This text inevitably occurs at the beginning of a blossoming relationship because your new significant other is on your mind as soon as you wake up. The morning text sometimes stops somewhere between leaving the bathroom door open and accepting morning breath, meaning that as time passes, although you love your partner, he or she is no longer the first thing on your mind when you wake up.
The thought of a morning text gets replaced with the long list of errands you have to complete that day. But, remember how you felt when you got a morning text, or an “out of the blue” text? They are so simple but have the power to brighten up your special someone’s day. It really is the little things that count.
3. Just because
It might be that you brought him his favorite ice cream or you planned a day out together, just because. You do the small things for your significant others just because you love them.
It’s not a chore or a burden because this person is your partner and together, you’re a team. The “just because” gestures make your partner feel special.
4. Have fun
Having fun may seem obvious; however, if you’re in a long-term relationship, chances are you two have a strong friendship. Since your partner is probably one of your best friends, don’t forget to have fun with him or her. Laugh, dance, sing or go on a hike, whatever you do all that matters is that you are having a good time.
5. Don’t forget why you fell in love in the first place
This is key, so make sure you don’t lose that feeling. You fell so far in love with this person that you committed to a relationship! Things about this person made you feel like you wanted to spend your life with him or her.
Those things (should) still be present, but can sometimes get lost in the shuffle of passing years. If he or she still makes you feel that same way, you’re very much presently in love. Embrace it.