All posts by Samantha Surface

Samantha is a sugar-loving, California-girl, fulfilling her dreams in Boston. She graduated from the College of the Holy Cross in 2010 with a Sociology degree, and uses her background to thoroughly people watch at the airport. Her gypsy-soul brought her back to Beantown after calling Connecticut and Texas home during her post-college years. You can follow her on Instagram or Twitter: @SammySurface.

Finding love- one of the ultimate journeys we take during our lifetime.  Some people have success early on their lives, before online dating became mainstream or even before smart phones were the norm.  Now people are connected to their phones and going without it for even a few hours is considered “going off the grid.”  We manage funds through it, exchange money between friends, call a personal transportation service, and even potentially meet our soul mate. When I first moved to a new city, I decided to give OKCupid aRead More

Posted On December 16, 2016By Samantha SurfaceIn Girlzone, Lifestyle

An Open Letter to My Friend Who Lost a Parent

Dear Club Member, I’ve been where you are before, but you’re there now and that’s what matters.  We are members of a club that does not discriminate, but no one wants to be included.  I remember telling you I was part of this club only to have you look at me with compassion and forgiving eyes, but telling you I hope you don’t have to join for a million lifetimes.  But you’re here, with me by your side, wishing we were anywhere but here. We stand side-by-side because one parentRead More

Posted On March 8, 2016By Samantha SurfaceIn Advice For Men, Advice For Women, Girlzone

When Adulting is Just Too Much

When we were younger, we wanted to be older.  Now that we’re older, we want to be younger, or at least still in college because that was a collection of years that will not count when we reach the pearly whites.  But let’s face it, we have to adult, even when it feels like it just too much.  Here’s a little guide to help you through the hard parts or the times that you just can’t… Breathe Breathe in.  Breathe out.  Take in this moment for what it is andRead More

Posted On September 19, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Girlzone, Lifestyle, Miscellaneous

Accepting Acceptance

I never know when the outburst will occur. When tears will start rushing down my face without any barriers to block them from my lips. The saltiness of my tears tantalizes my tongue and I am brought back to the moments I want to forget. This is what grief feels like: for a death, a loss, or a departure of some sort that was not warranted or desired. Good-byes were always a wretched sound to me, even if their time was now and I should have met them yesterday. IRead More

Posted On July 13, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Dating For Women, Girlzone

What Happened to the Break Up?

The best story ever told was between someone’s fingertip and their beloved’s skin- a love story of some sort or the tale of two individuals coming together. The only thing more epic than the beginning of a love story is the ending- the final touch or the end of the caress. In today’s society, it seems as though the only thing being touched is the screen on a smart phone to start a text message, and sometimes, the ending of an affair isn’t even granted that courtesy. From my datingRead More

Posted On June 11, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Girlzone, Lifestyle

My Personal Trainer Changed My Life

At the beginning of this year, I quickly realized my metabolism was no longer that of a 20-years-old college athlete, but my sweet tooth that could make Willy Wonda cringe still controlled me. Not only was I stressing about work, being single, and my love handles that seemed to get more love than necessary, I was losing myself and my confidence. Fate would have it, that work would send me to Atlanta for work for a few days and lucky for me, my old college friend, turned trainer said heRead More
Others notice it, or recognize the absence of it.  That silent “R” that Bostonians leave out when speaking.  When you hear it, or don’t, that’s when you know you’ve stepped into the greater Boston area.   You’re now in “Boston Strong” territory. I have no problem screaming at the top of my lungs that I was born and raised in California.  We’re all from somewhere, and yes, I’m extremely proud to be a California Girl, but there’s something about saying I live in Boston that causes a smile that I didn’tRead More

Posted On April 15, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Girls, Manzone

#WCW: Lauryn Eagle

-Lauryn Eagle- Twitter: @lauryneagle Instagram: lauryneagle Known for: Throwing punches while looking flawless Lauryn Eagle is an Australian boxer and water skiing champion. Not only is she a professional boxer from Down Under, she can also add model and Celebrity Apprentice Australia alum to her resume. Eagle runs her own boot camps, Eagle Fitness, in Australia- take a look at her Instagram and you’ll want to fly down there for the classes too. She’s may not be that well-known in the United States, but she should be to you. You’re welcome,Read More

Posted On March 13, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Dating For Women, Girlzone

I Should’ve Swiped Left

He had a strong jaw with an athletic build.  He seemed endearing and kind, but with a bit of an edge to him also.  We were members of corporate America and walked the same streets of the city.  I liked what I saw, so I swiped right.  It was a match! It wasn’t until afterwards that I realized I probably should’ve swiped left. We chatted and sent normal people messages, an idea so foreign in the Tinder realm. He would be the first guy I might actually meet from thisRead More

Posted On March 10, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Girlzone, Lifestyle

When Your Parents Date

I never thought I would be exchanging battle stories with my dad when it comes to the War of Love. He’s probably thinking the exact same thing. Not that it’s brag worthy, but my dad was going out on more dates than me at one point. We never expected to be in this situation, but after losing my mom to cancer over two years ago, we find dating to be a normal topic of discussion now. Sometimes it’s hilarious and other times it’s just weird. For better or for worse,Read More

Posted On January 18, 2015By Samantha SurfaceIn Internet, The Scene

My Editor – Captain Dudebro: A Response to XOJane

Writing was always a favorite past time of mine. Reading comprehension was always my highest score when it came to standardized testing, even as a little girl. My thoughts managed to come together in my head and I could articulate them on paper. Needless to say, being a writer was my life-long aspiration, but my life took a few different turns as I enter my late-twenties, I took other roles to pay the bills. Lucky for me, I found a few editors who believed the string of sentences I putRead More

Posted On December 22, 2014By Samantha SurfaceIn Miscellaneous, Ramblings

Dear Mommy, Merry Christmas

Dear Mommy,   I’m sorry I don’t write more often, but it’s difficult to put a pen to paper or tap the keys on my laptop at times when I think of you. It’s almost Christmas and that was always your favorite holiday. You decorated the house the day after Halloween before disregarding Thanksgiving went mainstream. You were always ahead of the trends. This will be the third Christmas without you, but the first one that I’ll say out loud, “Mommy’s not coming back.”   I thought about you today.Read More
It happened.  The best night of the year, in my opinion – the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. I haven’t missed a show since I was 15 and now beautiful things such as DVR and smart phones allow me to watch the entirety of display of perfection at my own convenience. If my assumptions are correct, it would be safe to say that more girls are excited to watch 47 models display breathtaking beauty than most men. I’ll admit it. I’m more excited than most of my guy friends.   TheseRead More

Posted On December 2, 2014By Samantha SurfaceIn Advice For Men, Advice For Women, Girlzone

Letting Go to Catch Something Better

I never did grasp the entire concept of letting go. Timing the release of a perfect hug is difficult for me at times. Relinquishing control isn’t my problem, it’s the fear of not knowing that gets to me. According to the multiple self-help books and articles I’ve read, the minute we let go of the attachment to what we really want, it appears in our life. In order to better myself, I need to let go instead of searching to add something.   At the last wedding I attended, IRead More

Posted On November 13, 2014By Samantha SurfaceIn Miscellaneous

I Found You

We said good-bye, or at least we just stopped talking. It seems that how most modern-day love stories start their end. I thought I loved you, but I really didn’t like you. You portrayed a collected façade that only hid shattered pieces that no one really knew how to mend together. I believed things would get better sooner than later, but I think the lies to myself got the best of me.   It took time to realize the damage that you created and the sorrow that you lived through.Read More